'She has saved my life 8 times in the last two years': Wife confronts husband and sons after they accuse her of loving her service dog more than them

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    Am I overreacting because my husband and kids are jealous of my service dog?

    'Would they be jealous and this huffy about an inhaler, or oxygen tank?' SERVICE DOG
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    Are you jealous of your partners pet, or is your partner jealous of the relationship you have with your pet?
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    me and my husband have been together for 22 years. I have a life-threatening rare genetic disease my doctor suggested I get a dog that is trained to tell me if I'm having an attack
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    I got my dog 7 years ago she has saved my life 8 times in the last two years alone by waking me up out of my sleep when my tounge and throat started to swell shut so I could get to the hospital to to intubated.
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    my husbands become very jealous of my dog often. accusing me of putting her above the family. For instance I let her curl up at the top of my bed and then I take a pillow or two put them on top of her and use her as a pillow and I curl up towards the foot of the bed my husband hates it
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    I do try to make sure she's turned so her a isn't in his face. she's not like super gassy or anything but won't lie she has farted in her sleep. he hates it to the point of threatening to make us sleep on the couch.
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    he says I'm do it because I love her more and dont respect him he complains she follows me around too much but technically we got her to be with me at all times
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    hes now got my boys who are 15 and 21 hating her to. they say things like "you love your dog more than us" I tell them its impossible to love a dog more than them but she keeps me around for them
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    they are always like kicking at her to get away from them (not actually kicking her) and wont let her near them my 21 year old LITTERATLY has never pet my dog in the 7 years ive had her not once.
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    I finally told them she puts in the effort for the attention I give to her. If they wanted to follow me to the bathroom everytime I sh and sit between my legs id be more then happy to scratch them behind the ears too.
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    Am I wrong Im just not seeing why they have an issue with a dog that's kept me alive to be here for them are you jealous of your spouses relationship with their pet or do you have a partner jealous of your relationship with your pet?
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    Am I the only one having this issue???
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    Edit Ok let me add this cause it seems to be everyone's question... can I compromise and have the dog sleep at my feet definitely yes but he has to be up at 4 am and everytime I try to get her to lay at my feet she keeps him up all night getting up over and over and
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    trying to lay back at her normal spot then he's yelling omg I ☐ need sleep I have to get up in blah blah hours so I tend to just give in so he can rest and let her sleep where he hates her to sleep I told him getting her used to a new place to sleep won't happen over night he also
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    often says when you are in the hospital she sleeps in the livingroom alone just fine and wants her out there when I'm home which isn't an option so deal with grouchy husband that's getting no sleep cause your are compromising or deal
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    with well rested husband that is mad where the dog sleeps but she doesnt kept him up and slept all night soundly I'm fine either way I guess it's up to him if we doesn't want sleep for a few weeks to retrain her....
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    nylonvest 17h ago Mostly NOR but I gotta say that you could stand to rethink the sleep habits around the dog. Unless the dog needs to be that close to keep you safe, if your husband would like the bed to be for just the two of you I think that's something you should agree to.
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    If the dog DOES need to be that close to keep you safe, ... wow. But yeah then he needs to deal with it.
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    B blies 17h ago . Hopefully this is just jealousy that they don't know how to word. Maybe they want more time with you and the dog is just a convenient scapegoat. If they want to spend time with you, they should try to do so,
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    not get mad at the dog because it's been trying. Maybe they have difficult feelings about your illness that are easier to take out on the dog. Ultimately though, it doesn't sound like it's REALLY about the dog.
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    Expensive Plant_9... 15h ago NOR except the sleeping arrangement. Is your dog required to sleep at the top of the bed like that, or is that just some thing you've adopted because the dog likes it and you give the dog what it wants?
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    Because I could see how that could be seriously annoying for your husband.
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    As long as the dog has access to you, and can perform it's medical function (because a service dog is a medical tool, not a pet), there should be a compromise to make where the dog can still do that but not annoy your husband's sleeping habits.
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    Upstairs-Log668 · 15h ago . I hate to sound r de but every response op gives is "no no no, nothing works but I sleep on her or he wants her locked out so I di " it sounds like she isn't willing to talk to him about it. 90 percent positive
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    hubby's mad bc he doesn't want to be intimate with a dog in the bed. Op is seriously ill... she needs the dog 100 percent but if she truly does value the dog more than his needs... that's really hard on a person especially if they are
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    also the only one working and cooking and cleaning. Love can only go so far when you seriously cannot feel or see it... he probably feels lonely and unappreciated and just wants some alone time and the more its denied the more
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    angry he becomes at his wife's dog bc... well he loves his wife and he needs someone or something to blame. Ok I'm ready for the flood of downvotes... shower me with hatred for not being on 1 side.
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    Battletrout2010 16h ago Maybe if the dog farts a lot but has to be with you when you sleep, turning the dog so it's but isn't in your husbands face. Also, people don't pet service animals. That breaks training.
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    treemosslover 17h ago ESH. Your family is ridiculous for saying you love her more than them. If she truly is a medical life saving dog, they can deal with her presence. They don't have to pet her and play with her though.
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    At the same time, you can't just expect non pet people to be pet people. Also I would be livid if I was forced to share my bed with a dog that farted in my face "sometimes." Why can't you compromise and train her to sleep next to you on the floor?
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    KittyAerith 17h ago . The dog needs to stay close to you. This is important because you might experience an attack at any moment. I believe it would be beneficial to hold a family meeting to clarify that the dog will always be by your side. Service dogs are essential since it's impossible for someone to be available all the time.
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    I apologize if this comes off as impolite. It's angry me when people don't understand, especially family
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    Yamaha RD100 16h ago I think there is something the OP is leaving out. The husband feels emotionally deprived and not the priority. Right or wrong. I don't know. But the 15 and 20 year old? What is behind that?! You are
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    leaving something significant out of the conversation. Sure the husband is peeved, whatever. But why do your boys hate the dog? That ain't normal.
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    roxyshusband. 17h ago "he complains she follows me around too much" isnt that her job? your family sounds like comic book villain amounts of evil
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    Weekly Tomorrow6... 16h ago Would they be jealous and this huffy about an inhaler, or oxygen tank? They sound entitled and they should really check themselves. Of all the things to be jealous of and hate...a DOG??? SERVICE
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    Suitable-Park184 16h ago . What about one of those baby cribs that attach to the bedside. She can be close to you but away from your husband.
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    HauntedSpiceVillage 16h ago Wow, a group of childish men being mad about a woman having a service dog that saves her life on a constant basis?
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    Wish I could say I'm shocked but men (like this) will only be happy if you get rid of what you love and what keeps you alive for their own satisfaction. I bet you they would still be resentful even if you happened to rehome the dog (I would NEVER, rehome the worthless men instead).
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    They'll only be happy if you d at their expense. I'm sorry the men you raised are also part of the problem, that must be hard to deal with.

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